Ever hear the old saying: “You are what you eat”? If: every day you eat sugar, spice and everything nice, then chances are you’re not going to be any of those things; you are going to wind up over weight!
When it comes to the way we think, It really does matter what we dwell on the most. If always find ourselves thinking about sorrow then we are rarely going to be happy.
If we give too much thought about how hard it is to refrain from being agitated by someone in our lives who is a pest, then chances are we are going to be annoyed even more with normal actions by this person.
A bit of common sense is in order when focusing on optimism. If we believe it everything is always great we can be setting ourselves up for failure. The basic idea here is that we need to have a good reason for optimism and not just a willy nilly totally care free attitude.
The thing I am trying to illustrate is that people often get lost in thought thinking about whimsical concerns or giving undue hype to other things. Neither of these focuses are going to produce any lasting positive effect.
Let’s take a moment and think properly. I probably got you there and you are most likely now asking “what ?” it’s not total rocket science but it takes some deep meditation to get the answers straight.
Just one focus for consideration:
Our work is important to us, the better we do the more money we make and that can be an urgent thing if we are having problems paying all of our bills. The truth for a lot of us is that this is not the case because as we acquire more income we also acquire more expenses.
A person will think that now they got a promotion that they can buy that great new 3D TV or something of the like, and be able to do so on payments, but fail to consider when unexpected expenses may arise. Worse than that, the item they are still paying for may become outdated or lose its attraction to them before it is even paid for.
The Real Point:
Everybody has needs and they are always specifically concerning us as individuals. There is no cure all elixir for every person and it the responsibility of each person to work towards their needs. The problem is that many of us don’t truly know what we need.
To really get to the core of what will cause the most beneficial change in our lives we need to reflect on what we truly yearn for. We need to go beyond frivolous desires and really unearth what motivates us.
Just put some time aside side so you can clear your mind in a peaceful setting and start allowing yourself to focus on a simple phrase: what do I want? If you can do this a few times a week and be consistent with the question, the answer that surface will most likely take you by surprise as not being frivolous at all.
If you have a hard time doing this you may want to consider learning how to meditate. It is a very effective tool for use here and will sever you in realizing how to acquire that true desire while making others around you a little happier too!